1. My baby is grossly underweight (Almost 11 months old, 6.5kg – you do the math)
2. She has been on a hunger (for solids) strike for a month
3. She wants only the boob
4. She wakes 3-5 times a night for the boob
5. She does not nap. If I’m lucky, she does 2 half hour naps.
6. She finally sleeps at midnight and wakes at 10am and because I wake up in the night to boob her, I wake up when she wakes up. I wish I could wake earlier, but it is just so hard when I get a total of 3-4 hours sleep everyday.
When we left the hospital a week ago, T2 was diagnosed with Failure To Thrive. I cried whilst driving because I just don’t know where I went wrong. This whole breastfeeding thing is really stressing me out!!!
Yet, if I deny her, she will scream her blinking throat till it shoots out from her mouth. Is it any wonder she was admitted for laryngitis on top of her bronchiolitis?
I cannot do this anymore but I don’t know what to do.
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what is ‘Failure to Thrive’? Did Doctor give any advice on how to overcome it?? Got news about it last week, but didnt dare to call you.
ignore my 1st question…
mamapumpkin, never give up! Babies often sense their mothers’ emotion, esp if we stressed out. They tend to get affected and do exactly the opposite of what we wanted. My 13mo baby weights as he was 6mo. I m worried and upset too, but these negative emotion would not help me. I move forward. I read lots of books and article of the relevants during my break time. I have tried many feeding methods and make many baby foods – after many time of try&error,i finally figured out my baby’s preferences.
Isnt true – motherhood inspires we mother to become wiser, wiser and wiser. Before we become wiser, we must have faith in ourself. T2 will def grow, it is just a matter of time.
Have FAITH – it would empower you!
Did the paed recommend or suggest things you can do to increase her food intake? I really only have one suggestion – toughen your heart, dig into your pockets and send T2 away to a sitter for a couple of months so that she starts taking milk from the bottle. When that is achieved, then you can plump her up by giving her Pediasure. In the meantime, can you sneak in Pediasure into her meals? Eg mix with cereal instead of using water or bm. Have you introduced fish to T2 yet? Try cod fish porridge – my mum swears that it plumps babies up. Hmm what else….I’m on leave at home for the next 2 weeks. You’re welcome to drop T2 at my place via you chill out. I’m serious ok, else I won’t bother opening my mouth! I’ve got spare playpen and lots of toys to keep her happy. Maybe I can attempt bottle-feeding her too!
I gib u luuvve.. cos I got nothing else to gib (no advice no recommendation, sorry..)
I also have a very underweight child….only 10% of the percentile scale according to the school’s Health report. My 10 1/2 year old is only 27 kgs….
*hugs* have you tried spoonfeeding her formula? fresh milk?
did u get a 2nd opinion or 3rd? another paed, another hospital?
Hang in there! All mothers have superpower to face the challenges. You still haven’t realized and uncover all your powers yet jek.. *hug hug bb*
speak words of blessing to her everyday and don’t EVER stop trusting God to heal her ok. we’ll pray for you too. 🙂
is T2 generally very alert and active? If so, stop stressing yourself out. My elder daughter was a very skinny baby, and she’s still a skinny, well, slim girl now, at age 9. I was so worried about her lack of weight gain, like how you are now. Kelly too refused solids for a period of time.. just milk milk milk and more milk! Then, I read somewhere, I can’t even remember the source of this now, that if your child is drinking and eating normally, and if she is active and alert and learning, then it’s ok. Some babies just have smaller appetite.
meanwhile, I’ll give you some lurve here.. *HUGGGG*
i dono what to comment. I regret bf exclusively my boys. they almost ruin my life (they take turn to torture me, day and night) and worst till, theirs as they refuse anything else but the breasts. i shud have let them go on formula in the first place. sorry, i sound so demotivated here.