Once upon a time, there was a man somewhere in Asia. As many middle class families then, the man went to work to earn for the family, his wife stayed at home and popped one kid, two kids, three kids…….nobody knows of the fourth. As Mr N rose the ranks of the business world and starting gaining recognition, his ego got the better of him and he started falling in love with a performer. Perhaps it was peer pressure. Back in the day, it was customary that men stayed out late to entertain or drink with their men counterpart. And womanise.

I don’t think it is too different today, perhaps practised just more discreetly.

One day, Mrs N got wind that her husband had been seeing this performer and she wanted to hunt her down for disrupting her marriage. How dare she?! Mrs N rounded up some good girl friends and together they began stalking Mr N and saw him enter a hotel with the performer. But when Mrs N called her husband, he denied vehemently that anything out of order was happening and when Mrs N and her friends barged into the hotel room, there was only Mr N. No Madam performer in sight. Years went by and Mr N continued his affair albeit more cautiously with the performer until it eventually sizzled out because things got too difficult for them to continue. Mrs N was made a mockery in society because everyone knew her husband was sleeping with another woman. Everyone except her.

The family moved. A new city. New schools for the children. New friends for the wife. New ventures for the businessman who eventually ended up in politics. All this while, Mrs N had worked very hard to see Mr N towards getting where he is today. And despite all the rumours of her husband seeing that other woman, she chose to stand by her man and trusted him. She loved him. She could have taken his money and started a new life with her children but she didn’t.

Years later in the new city, Mr N got itchy again and fell in love yet again with another performer. This time, he chose to divorce Mrs N to marry his new performer. The kids were devastated. Mrs N was livid. She was a high society attention seeker and this would have brought incredible shame! The other woman was a smart woman though and through Mr N’s weaknesses, she managed to get him to marry her. Even when she herself had kids already and was a divorcee herself. But she was beautiful and talented. And men are stupid that way. Maybe.

In doing that, Mr N had to pay off his wife many million dollars as alimony. And of course, she wanted more being the greedy woman that she is but can we blame her? The other woman was also fighting for Mr N’s wealth and not prepared to part with too much. After all, it was what she trapped him for. Thankfully, Mr N had a LOT of money to go round. Enough even for his children to be happy. And screwed up.

What does one do when they get embroiled in society’s scandals and sagas of such? What do their friends do? Take sides? Be friends with both sides? Frighteningly, this scenario isn’t an uncommon scene in real life. All over Asia.

Why is it that men (and women) get married and then fail to get their act together to stay married? Is it pure selfishness? Does one fall out of love so easily? Wasn’t it for better or for worse?

What’s your take on this?

I think that Asian men are generally insecure creatures (not all, but many) and their biggest downfall are their big egos.

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