I swear by this theory.

I spent close to 10 days observing Tee’s playschool when she first started and observed the whole play of what experts define as separation anxiety. In particular, I observed the kids who had one parent carers, that is to say, they have been with only one carer from the day they were born, hence know none the better about being left with anyone else.

From what I observed, kid’s actually settle quite quickly into the new environment, considering all else is good, but only make a play of Mama’s attention that they get physically and mentally abused at playschool. For the first and second day, and sometimes the third but rarely, the kid goes into shock and clings onto the carer with claws, even drawing blood, the instant they realise they are about to be flung into Darth Vader’s dungeons.

Here the school plays a part depending on how creatively their Princess Leia’s have been trained. What they usually do is tear the child from the carer, then distract the child, except that some refuse to be distracted just like Tee. A point to note is that the person who tears the child away should NOT be the class teacher that you want the child to bond with. Get them to use someone else, another teacher, the cleaner, the garbage man. It is important that the class teacher becomes the GOOD guy who saves and protects the child from Darth Vader’s dungeon. Be prepared that you will see a look on your child’s face that you have never seen before. A look of horror. A look that penetrates deeply from the soul of their eyes, and cuts into your heart strings and twists them like a clothes wringer……

Fear not. It is only temporary. Fifteen minutes max. The child will scream and all hell breaks loose. But only for fifteen minutes after you leave. Then throughout the day, there will be intermitent sobs for five minute intervals, but for most part, the child is actually curious with the fun that the rest of the kids are having. Teachers usually make the children draw pictures of their carers and talk about their carers when the child starts sobbing and missing their carers. As long as they have one loving person beside them to console them, they will be fine.

From the fourth day onwards, and up to a whole year, your child may still cling on to you and cry everytime she gets dropped off but I assure you, it lasts only for as long as you are there.

If you do not believe me, send in a videocamera to record the class or better still, get the school to install CCTVs where you can observe from the comforts of your home.

No shit.

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Who is Mamapumpkin?
Mamapumpkin spent 7 years in London committing crimes to gain her Bartlett degree in Architecture. She then spent 7 years as a Stay At Home Mom raising her children as documented in this blog of over 15 years thereafter returning to the Corporate World stronger than ever as the Country Director of a British Multinational. She sets out to prove to all, that you can have anything and everything that you want; if you have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with much love.

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