Whether you have a Blackberry, an iPhone or one of the many other Smart Phones, let it be known that it is very rude to use it when you are in the presence of someone else unless it is a matter of urgency. And please apologise for it. If you are too busy (like me) responding to messages and emails all day (like me), then you should just stay home locked up in your room and get on with it. Don’t bother going out to meet anyone because you won’t have time to squeeze more than two sentences in and unless you just want to see that person face to face without much interaction, then by all means get a photo or have a video-conference!
Today, I added this cartoon onto my facebook page.
And the first thing I thought of was how I was perceived by my girls since I am on the phone A LOT!!! I cannot help it. I am on the go a lot and I have a full time job. This means I am always responding to emails and messages from all over the world. Some messages I can respond later in the day after they sleep but unfortunately in today’s competitive world, speed to action is of utmost importance. So yeah, I am on the phone A LOT.
What I need is an iPad or a tablet of some sort to carry around everywhere I go so I don’t seem so much like a phone junkie! But at the moment, I have not yet bought my mobile internet access………it’s on my list of things to do which gets ticked off ever so slowly.
What I wanted to discuss though was looking at the cartoon above, would any of you stay with a guy who loves his phone more than you? Hands up, how many of you have partners who look more at their phones than at you? You know, holding a demanding role at work, I can totally understand how CEO’s can be glued to their phones day-in and day-out but there has to be a point when they say stop. And that is when the phone is switched off. O-F-F. OFF. Buried away for an hour. Or two! Or three!
I know many leaders who are perpetually glued to their phone on business and that is annoying but they really don’t have much choice. They are that busy! Just imagine running a 5,000 employee organisation when you have 15 heads of departments reporting to you and everyone has messages for you, and that’s not including the clients who also have queries etc etc etc. So cut them some slack…..just a little? Perhaps? Allow them to make it up to you? I know, I’m in that position on most week days. Very busy.
However, as a woman, if your man has such a busy role at work and has no time to look at you, I guess you have to decide if you really want to live with a man who is so busy or not! The trade off that many women I know accept is that they get a lot of money in return. I wouldn’t fall for it though. I will NOT marry a man who is too busy for me or the family. I don’t care how much money he would lose should he sacrifice his busy-ness for the family but the family has to be his number one priority. If there is not enough money to study abroad (for example), tough. I’d rather have a family unit together than a wealthier family who could send their kids for an education abroad but have spent 10 years of their lives not getting to really know their dad because he was the one on the phone all the time. Or away on business trips. Or staying late at the office. That is why the Hubs is under a lot of pressure from me to come home early despite his work commitments. I will not hesitate to call the office to get my husband back even if it means losing his job.
What’s your say?
**************************************************************************Who is Mamapumpkin?
Mamapumpkin spent 7 years in London committing crimes to gain her Bartlett degree in Architecture. She then spent 7 years as a Stay At Home Mom raising her children as documented in this blog of over 15 years thereafter returning to the Corporate World stronger than ever as the Country Director of a British Multinational. She sets out to prove to all, that you can have anything and everything that you want; if you have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with much love.
Mamapumpkin has not only grown corporate businesses successfully in the past but has grown not one but TWO network marketing businesses in the notorious MLM (Multi-Level Marketing) industry, achieving success in under 2 years. She believes in the MLM business model but realises the DRASTIC PITFALLS and great stigma attached to it, understanding EXACTLY WHY the majority would shy away (or RUN for their lives) from ANY MLM business. But open your eyes and take time to understand it intellectually, remove your hang-ups, confirm your research, and you may just want to seize an opportunity. She did. And no, she never went about chasing people for sales. She had a sophisticated system work for her through technology and a smartphone.
She now impacts lives authentically with proven strategies amassed through the last decade of her own transformation offering online coaching programmes and always supports the underprivileged. She believes that we can all have a life of our own desires to enable real contribution into the world. But first, one needs to understand what this all means.
A beautiful life without limits.
If you wish to learn some tools to propel your life forward guaranteed, be brave enough to make contact as her life's purpose is to build people. She operates through a discovery call after which she will commit to helping you. Or not.
Most lose out on an opportunity because they are afraid they would be sold to, conned or whatever fear resides in their brain without even trying. And that's on them.
Mamapumpkin is a living testimony that women really can have a lot. Being financially and time free has enabled her to travel the world anytime, anywhere, doing anything, and she spends most of her days with her children, having fun, and supporting others wherever she can. Also having fun.
