We all know one, or two or three, or God forbid, more than that! I have certainly had my fair share of toxicity and it is all fine and dandy when they are just people around you that you can easily dump, but what happens when they are members of your family that you will undoubtedly see at least one or twice or thrice a year??? URGH!!!

Some family members of mine, and I shall not name them, but rest assured it isn’t anyone in my immediate family (i.e. Nana, Tok-Tok, Unka Ben, my brother down south and my entire in-laws; well, I just had to qualify that, you know….in case some people get sensitive – LOL!), have some serious issues with life. Life to them is a constant uphill battle that they are always climbing and they hate everyone else for it because they struggle to climb this mountain called life! So everything that comes out of their mouths is toxic, negative, designed to make you feel inferior and intended to pull you down. Although I am perfectly fine dealing with such people, I don’t like them around my children as kids pick up upon their surroundings and such negativity is totally unnecessary.

In the past, these kind of people might hurt me but now, I am equipped with some spicy bullets. I just don’t care anymore. I would kill them if I could but my Mom always says, just be respectful and be nice. And then stay out of their way as much as possible.

Mean people will always say things to bring you down because they are either jealous or tremendously insecure. It makes them feel better about themselves by pointing out your shortcomings or your mistakes in bringing up your kids. Or choice of husband, or home, or anything they can put their finger on, really! And then there are the ones who are so full of self-pity, continuous self-pity…..completely victimised, oh Lord!

So what do you do when you have some relative who keeps telling you should do this and that, or throws remarks that nobody in the world cares about them because of ABCDE?

You can defend your position by smiling sweetly and saying:-

“I can understand how you feel that way but I have decided to do it this way.”

“Thank you, I have already decided.”

“I realise it may not work for everyone but it works for me.”

“Thank you, I’ll consider it.” (then consider it for 0.001 seconds)

“Why do you ask?” (when they are being nosy)

Don’t volunteer any details. It is none of their business. You can also change the subject and completely ignore the subject, just pretend you’re dumb and the best solution of all, do it with humour. That way, they never know if you’re being serious or not. Hick! I love being bitchy. Especially when it comes to horrid people!!!

In fact, I was told by one relative that another relative had so many bad things to say about me. I just smiled and changed the subject. I didn’t even care what people had to say, especially when it was coming from THAT kind of people, so I didn’t ask her what they said. Honestly, who cares…..my Mama always told me, as long as your conscience is clear, nothing else matters. Another thing she taught me was, as long as they weren’t paying my bills and putting food on my table, they weren’t entitled to pulling my strings.

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Who is Mamapumpkin?
Mamapumpkin spent 7 years in London committing crimes to gain her Bartlett degree in Architecture. She then spent 7 years as a Stay At Home Mom raising her children as documented in this blog of over 15 years thereafter returning to the Corporate World stronger than ever as the Country Director of a British Multinational. She sets out to prove to all, that you can have anything and everything that you want; if you have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with much love.

Mamapumpkin has not only grown corporate businesses successfully in the past but has grown not one but TWO network marketing businesses in the notorious MLM (Multi-Level Marketing) industry, achieving success in under 2 years. She believes in the MLM business model but realises the DRASTIC PITFALLS and great stigma attached to it, understanding EXACTLY WHY the majority would shy away (or RUN for their lives) from ANY MLM business. But open your eyes and take time to understand it intellectually, remove your hang-ups, confirm your research, and you may just want to seize an opportunity. She did. And no, she never went about chasing people for sales. She had a sophisticated system work for her through technology and a smartphone.

She now impacts lives authentically with proven strategies amassed through the last decade of her own transformation offering online coaching programmes and always supports the underprivileged. She believes that we can all have a life of our own desires to enable real contribution into the world. But first, one needs to understand what this all means.

A beautiful life without limits.

If you wish to learn some tools to propel your life forward guaranteed, be brave enough to make contact as her life's purpose is to build people. She operates through a discovery call after which she will commit to helping you. Or not.

Most lose out on an opportunity because they are afraid they would be sold to, conned or whatever fear resides in their brain without even trying. And that's on them.

Mamapumpkin is a living testimony that women really can have a lot. Being financially and time free has enabled her to travel the world anytime, anywhere, doing anything, and she spends most of her days with her children, having fun, and supporting others wherever she can. Also having fun.