Tee thinks you can make babies through hugging in private. Then she wonders why there is no baby after she leaves you behind closed doors for twenty eight seconds. She is taught that you can only marry someone of the opposite sex outside your family and that you generally make babies after marriage. I don’t believe that, but try explaining gay marriages to a toddler. I certainly don’t want to be encouraging toddler sex either!
She wants to marry this boy in school who is real cute. I totally approve. Not because he is cute but he has the most wonderful sense of kindness, shyness and well, he’s darn cute. So far so good.
But what would I do if one day she came home with a nose ringed pot addict who’s been jobless for the last three years? What would you do?
When I was growing up, I had lots of boyfriends – many platonic, some with emotional roller-coasters. Mostly because my parents were never around to pay us much attention so I instinctively got it elsewhere. The attention. Yet my mother would stress that I find a man who loved me more than I loved him. What did that mean? How would you measure that?
Parents only want what is best for their children after all so it is natural that they are idealists when deciding whether or not to give their blessings in their children’s choice of lifetime partners. My mother has never been wrong about every single boyfriend I’ve had. There was an incident where I’d snuck a boy into my bedroom and he lived right under my parent’s roof without them knowing. Until that day when the maid snitched on us. All hell broke lose with mom turning into satan personified, searching my entire bedroom for that boy. He was under the bed. 🙂
Later, she explained that if he had really loved me, he should have had the balls to come out of hiding when she was yelling her head off at me. He should have apologised for his wrong doing. And he should have taken the blame for it and protected me. Even if it was both our sins.
Then there was another boy, who would hardly ever come to my place but expected me to hang out at his place instead. Mom felt there was no give and take in that relationship. No respect. She was right.
As we go through life, with the right teachings, we learn to respect ourselves more, learn of ourselves more, and learn what we may want in a lifetime partner. It is only then, when you truly know yourself and know what YOU want, that a right choice is made.
So if Tee were to ever bring someone home of questionable material, my first reaction would be to myself. I’d ask myself where I’d slipped. And since damage was already done, I’d offer her possible scenarios of what might happen. But leave the thinking to her. I don’t think people can be pushed into not loving another. I’ve seen parents disowning their children, leaving them with threats and causing trouble; when really it is themselves that needed the soul-searching.
Remember too, that your children are not yours. They are children of God, and you are merely here to equip them with the best of what life has to offer.
**************************************************************************Who is Mamapumpkin?
Mamapumpkin spent 7 years in London committing crimes to gain her Bartlett degree in Architecture. She then spent 7 years as a Stay At Home Mom raising her children as documented in this blog of over 15 years thereafter returning to the Corporate World stronger than ever as the Country Director of a British Multinational. She sets out to prove to all, that you can have anything and everything that you want; if you have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with much love.
Mamapumpkin has not only grown corporate businesses successfully in the past but has grown not one but TWO network marketing businesses in the notorious MLM (Multi-Level Marketing) industry, achieving success in under 2 years. She believes in the MLM business model but realises the DRASTIC PITFALLS and great stigma attached to it, understanding EXACTLY WHY the majority would shy away (or RUN for their lives) from ANY MLM business. But open your eyes and take time to understand it intellectually, remove your hang-ups, confirm your research, and you may just want to seize an opportunity. She did. And no, she never went about chasing people for sales. She had a sophisticated system work for her through technology and a smartphone.
She now impacts lives authentically with proven strategies amassed through the last decade of her own transformation offering online coaching programmes and always supports the underprivileged. She believes that we can all have a life of our own desires to enable real contribution into the world. But first, one needs to understand what this all means.
A beautiful life without limits.
If you wish to learn some tools to propel your life forward guaranteed, be brave enough to make contact as her life's purpose is to build people. She operates through a discovery call after which she will commit to helping you. Or not.
Most lose out on an opportunity because they are afraid they would be sold to, conned or whatever fear resides in their brain without even trying. And that's on them.
Mamapumpkin is a living testimony that women really can have a lot. Being financially and time free has enabled her to travel the world anytime, anywhere, doing anything, and she spends most of her days with her children, having fun, and supporting others wherever she can. Also having fun.
