Today, a mom at school came up to me to tell me that HER daughter told her that Tee had smacked her.

Oops.

I apologised even without knowing if it was true or not. I mean, these three year olds……they’re really into making up stories, aren’t they?

Later when I got to see Tee, I asked her if she had smacked A and she said no. Not convinced, I asked her all day, bringing it up every now and then, after three to four hour intervals. By dinner time, she finally said yes. She did it because A had snatched a toy away from her. I asked her what toy it was and she described it. At this point, I still wasn’t sure if she was making up stories because if you knew my daughter, she is quite the story teller akin to that Harry Potter lady. And I wasn’t sure if she said yes because she was so tired of me asking that darn blasted question, as if I didn’t trust her.

Later, I told another mom what had happened and she was shocked. She said Tee wasn’t the smacking type! Hmm……

When I saw angry mom again later, I apologised again and explained that her daughter had apparently snatched a toy away from Tee, causing Tee to react. I continued to explain that I have told Tee that it doesn’t give her a reason to smack other children and that she doesn’t do it again. Guess what the mom said?

“Yah, but does this mean she really wouldn’t smack again?”

Holy shit. I don’t think even the PhD doctor in child psychology could answer that question. So I shrugged my shoulders and gave her that worried, apologetic, concerned look. What should I have done? Tell her not to worry? Or tell her that I’d kill my girl if she ever smacked again?

LATER still, I asked Tee’s teacher if she had noticed Tee smacking anyone and told her that this is what A told her mother. Tee’s teacher was quick to her defense saying that she has always been beside A this last week and nobody has smacked her. She spoke with total conviction. *sigh*

I feel bad because I don’t really know what happened and don’t really want to reprimand my daughter when she is innocent. As I know it, Tee doesn’t like this A girl because she wants things her way ALL THE TIME. And expects her way all the time. A case of accidental parenting, whilst I’m not suggesting my style of parenting is greater.

Today, we went to another friend’s house and Tee’s friend was telling a joke. We all found it so funny that Tee, being over-excited as she was, smacked the girl in laughter. I wouldn’t exactly call it a smack, but a hit. Not a hard hit either. The way you would bang the table if you found something so funny. The way I would smack a friend if he took the piss out of me. A funny, friendly kind of smack. I have no idea where she’s picked up this friendly smacking from whenever she gets excited from too much laughter. It is not a painful smack but I guess I should just tell Tee to contain her hands when she laughs in future.

So I spoke to more moms later, and they were all shocked too that Tee had smacked.

Oh well.

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