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The Hubs has always maintained that I am slightly dyslexic as I shoot from the hip. Many a time, I have said words without thought, and this usually gets me into trouble. I can’t help it! I am what I am and my mouth works faster than my brain. It’s just me. Sometimes I mix words up, unintentionally but quite often……like ‘there was a hotel in the swimming pool’ or ‘sleepy made me very yoga today’.
When it comes to children (or anyone for that matter), I am pretty direct. I say what I say, and I say it as it is. Some people find me too transparent, what to do? I can’t bring myself to be polite to someone who’s really a pain in the arse. I just don’t know how to. Coming back to children, I love children (of any size, race, behaviour) and consider all children God’s gift to the planet. And I’ve always treated children like my own. Almost, within certain boundaries.
Thus, when a child puts her leg on the table at dinner, I will ask her to put it down, whether or not she is my own child. Or when a child coughs into someone elses face, I will ask him to please close his mouth when he coughs. Or even when a child asks for something, I will remind her to say please. As much as possible, I will try to put my suggestion up in a tactful manner. But some children do go beyond the line and that’s when my tone can get firm. It is possibly wrong because perhaps it is the child’s mother who should really be using that firm tone. But what if the child’s mother is a pussy and allows the child to walk all over her causing her a lot of silent grief? It’s still her prerogative, right?
Well, I’ll tell you. As a friend, I would still impose my firm tone on her child. And I will continue doing so until the mother tells me herself to stop. Then I shall respect her wishes. Let me share with you some spoilt brat adults that I know, whose mothers spoilt them rotten to the point where they could do as they wished. These adults now swear at their own mothers, calling them names and TOTALLY disrespecting their mothers. It is horrific. And as a friend, I wouldn’t want that for you as a mother. But again, it is your prerogative. I do hope to protect you from being very hurt one day when after all that you’ve given to your child, she turns around to say fuck you.
My mother has a different train of thought. She feels that I have no right whatsoever to impose any of my values onto other people’s children. Even if a child spits on someone else, I should stay silent and leave his own mother the option to correct him or not. But my mom is funny. Should anyone harm Tee, do you think she would stay quiet and mind her own business? Nuh-uh *shaking head*. She’ll be the first to morph into satan incarnate zapping her tongue like a poisonous lizard without self-reproach.
I have told kids off before who weren’t mine and whether or not their parents were present were secondary. If you’re throwing sand onto somebody elses eyes, I will tell you to stop. I will make it MY business even if the victim wasn’t my own daughter. The Hubs knows I have gangster blood. I suppose Tee has it too.
I just thought I’d share that for today. What are your thoughts? And if any of you don’t like me telling your kid off, by all means, let me know. Don’t complain about it behind my back. I’m cool.
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To tell you the truth, sometimes my kids need to hear it from someone else. What mommy say doesn’t really count sometimes. So, please, by all means, tell my kids what they need to hear.
I will be sending my son to you! Sounds like he needs you 😉
Takes a village to raise a child. I agree with you. I usually do the “raise eyebrow” facial expression first..and hopefully the parent will catch the hint, and intervene. However, if the child is willfully hurting someone else, I will jump right in to stop the behavior. What is the parent is a spoilt brat too??? This actually happenned to me. My 6 year old son was playing with his toy. Another child wants it and started whinning. Guess what his idiotic kurang ajar Mat Salleh dad did?? Took the toy away from my son and gave it to his whinning child. All these time, he didn’t know I watching…and when he realized, he got that deer caught in the headlights look!! I rolled up eyes, threw up my hands, gave him dirty look and said, Geez!!!Bad seeds.
Hmm..funny u shld write this. I had my first hand experience. Not telling someone’s kid off but someone told or rather reprimanded my kiddo. My mom’s fren. We were at mom’s house and lil kid was crawling towards the staircase. The thing is, she is at the moment afraid to go up the stairs so I knew she would just stop and observe and eventually retreat. Before Ashley could demonstrate all that, my mom’s fren just barked at her “NO”, not telling her firmly but BARKED. And then my mom’s fren found it amusing that lil one ACTUALLY LISTENED and turned around. Hmm..to ask me honestly how I felt, I WAS NOT TOO HAPPY. COnsidering it was my mom’s fren, i just let it go. Plus, hubs was there. so, you know la ‘men’. I’ll tell you what i won’t mind, if she just told her with a firm “NO” and if she persists, then a little louder but then what do you expect from an 11 month old anyways? The best would be just carry her away if she refuses to listen, isn’t it? Anyways, its still early for me. Don’t know what I am saying but glad you brought this up allowing me a place to rant. hehehe…have a great weekend 😀
i think it’s nice to have another person in the world who cares. not just for their own precious spoilt children (anybody can be capable of that), but for the world, for the next generation of leaders, for the unshaped future of our childrens. as it is, i think parents don’t even care enough about disciplining their own children, much less others.
Ohh… guess my little Wen Wen needs u too!
I will throw my 2 cents too if other kids really cross the boundary too much… me too can’t stop myself for tat…and probably my mouth works faster than my tot’s too!