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I’ve been doing some thinking lately how difficult it must be for some people to find friends. Let’s say you are the daughter of the Prime Minister, or some famous celebrity or perhaps your dad is Donald Trump; maybe you yourself are the person of attraction because of some reason or other. How would you know if people are being friends with you for you, or for a reason.

There is this girl whom EVERYBODY wants to be friends with, because she is influential and wealthy. She possesses all the good qualities too of a friend; she’s caring, helpful, compassionate, fun, full of love and most importantly, she’s genuine. Yet, to her, everyone is so nice, because everyone really IS so nice to her! But had she NOT been influential nor wealthy, where then do her good qualities put her in Society Malaysia? I say this because we have gone out looking looking like maids and we have gone out looking like Datins, and believe you me when I say the response you get from the general public and even friends of friends, is apalling, disgusting, pathetic astonishing!!!

Because of this fact, I am slow to trust. I had a friend for the last few years who did all the right things that exhibited that she really cared about me. She would bring me food when I was ill, call just to ask how I was, listen when listening was needed, helped when help was required etc etc etc. I stopped hearing from her exactly this year because I suspect, the project is now over and I am no longer needed. The largest corporate office project in town is now completed. I had won the project several years ago for my then company, and knew many in-roads to details of the project. Or maybe, she has just been so busy that I have slipped lower on her list of priorities.

Then there is the friend who suddenly wants to meet up, stay over and be best friends just like old times. The friend who wants to help babysit until you find out that she actually just needs a hiding place from her boyfriend. What about the friend who lost all contact with his birth mother and after helping him round the world to find her again, I get no thanks. But instead, he cannot be friends with me because his wife won’t allow it. I’ve given many things up for friends without thanks so maybe thank you is just a difficult word to say.

Of course, we could argue till the cows come home about this. I am very clear whenever I do something for someone. I just want to touch hearts but lack the experience. I don’t do ulterior motives and hidden agendas. Some people think I’m *fill in the blanks, because they think so many things!*. But hey, if that’s what *whatever it is you filled in* is, then OK, I’m *whatever it is you filled in*.

As for me, my friends know. I don’t call unless I need something. If I cared about you, I care about you. If I called or emailed every friend to ask how they were, Tee wouldn’t be eating. So yes, whilst contacting friends is not high on my list of priorities, I do care about all of you. And I do think about all of you. And I WILL be there if any of you needed me. I treat the rich and the poor the same because I have seen it all and what means anything is your heart. Many people can decorate their own heart to look a certain way but that doesn’t last forever. It can last a long time, but not forever.

I do think many of the wealthy have been fooled in trusting over-achieving ‘friends’ who have gotten rich themselves through their friendships with them. For that reason, I am really myself everywhere I go. So people know me for me. And see me for me. If I’ve said anything that hurt anyone, I’m sorry, because if you really knew me, you’d know that hurting someone would be the last of my intentions.

So please, just allow me to be me.

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Who is Mamapumpkin?
Mamapumpkin spent 7 years in London committing crimes to gain her Bartlett degree in Architecture. She then spent 7 years as a Stay At Home Mom raising her children as documented in this blog of over 15 years thereafter returning to the Corporate World stronger than ever as the Country Director of a British Multinational. She sets out to prove to all, that you can have anything and everything that you want; if you have that fire of desire burning within and the drive to work hard. Even better with much love.

Mamapumpkin has not only grown corporate businesses successfully in the past but has grown not one but TWO network marketing businesses in the notorious MLM (Multi-Level Marketing) industry, achieving success in under 2 years. She believes in the MLM business model but realises the DRASTIC PITFALLS and great stigma attached to it, understanding EXACTLY WHY the majority would shy away (or RUN for their lives) from ANY MLM business. But open your eyes and take time to understand it intellectually, remove your hang-ups, confirm your research, and you may just want to seize an opportunity. She did. And no, she never went about chasing people for sales. She had a sophisticated system work for her through technology and a smartphone.

She now impacts lives authentically with proven strategies amassed through the last decade of her own transformation offering online coaching programmes and always supports the underprivileged. She believes that we can all have a life of our own desires to enable real contribution into the world. But first, one needs to understand what this all means.

A beautiful life without limits.

If you wish to learn some tools to propel your life forward guaranteed, be brave enough to make contact as her life's purpose is to build people. She operates through a discovery call after which she will commit to helping you. Or not.

Most lose out on an opportunity because they are afraid they would be sold to, conned or whatever fear resides in their brain without even trying. And that's on them.

Mamapumpkin is a living testimony that women really can have a lot. Being financially and time free has enabled her to travel the world anytime, anywhere, doing anything, and she spends most of her days with her children, having fun, and supporting others wherever she can. Also having fun.